I have struggled with my weight loss all my life, or more importantly by body image. I remember my first realization of this, when I was 6 or 7 yrs old, in grade 2, and my name was chosen from a hat as May Day Queen. Everyone laughed and said that I could not possibly be the May Day Queen, I was simply too big! I was very tall for my age, and grew to my full height (5"8) by the 8th grade. I think people perceived me being tall, as me being fat. My Mom had me on Weight Watchers when I was in 6th grade. I remember eating a lot of tunafish, that is about all. Looking back at pictures, I really wasn't overweight, but I was tall, and bigger than most of my classmates. I have been very active all my life, and played softball, basketball, volleyball all through Junior High, and High School. I had a strong, muscular body, I was built like a tank. I hovered around 160lbs, and was solid muscle. Still, in the 80's when "Thin was In" I was not "it". My coaches and my mother nagged me constantly about my weight. When I was 17, I joined the Diet Centre, and lost 30lbs, I was skinny, and thought I was happy. Of course I could not keep off the weight, I gained most of it back in a couple of months. I fell into a total depression, and overdosed on a bottle of pills. It was not a great time in my life. I was in Grade 12, and missed the first couple of months due to being hospitized. It was then when I first tried to work through my distorted body image, and what had brought me to this point, but unfortunately I only scratched the service of what was really going on. My parents then deceided to move from Des Moines, Iowa, back to Canada in the middle of my Grade 12 year in High School, more trauma to work through. I finished school, barely, and discovered that I liked my new home. I became a Social butterfly, with many boyfriends, and partied and worked, partied and worked for most of my early 20's. Most of this time I didn't weigh myself, but was usually a size 16 to a size 18. I still was in sports, and I found that my body image in this years was much better, I felt more confident, and liked myself more. I did some travelling on my own, and felt I was hitting my stride, I was really liking who I was becoming. In 1993, I met my husband, Greg. At this time I was probably a size 18. I can't say what my weight was for sure, as I hadn't weighed myself for ages. We knew it was love pretty quickly, and after meeting in August, we were engaged at Christmas, that same year. The next month, after beginning to plan our wedding, our plans suddenly changed, as I discovered that I was going to have a baby! During my first pregnancy, I ate everything in sight. People didn't seem to care about my weight. And I loved being able to not worry about holding my stomach in all the time. I was pregnant, it was supposed to hang out! I ended up gaining 40lbs with Maddison when all was said and done. Everyone said, breastfeeding will take that weight away no problem! Well, not for me. I went up to a size 20-22 ,and stayed there for a long time. Pretty much right up until my next pregnancy. With Turner, I was a little more careful, and only ended up gaining 20lbs. I stayed about the same size after the pregnancy. I was still pretty active, but didn't exercise regularly. With Mackinley, baby #3, I gained only 12lbs and was 274lbs at my last prenatal Dr's visit, 8 weeks after she was born I joined Weight Watchers. I did it for myself, not for my husband (who did not ever say a thing all those years!) not for my kids, or my weight obsessed mother, no one but myself. I also joined the YMCA at the same time. The weight came off easily at first, then more slowly after the first 20lbs. I started back to work full time 1 year ago, and have found it harder to keep on plan. I have only managed to take off 20lbs in 1 year, but I have noticed my fitness levels are much better. Working evenings only, has been great for me. I go to the YMCA almost every morning and take a class from 900-1000, while the kids go to the babysitting room. I do step aerobics 2 times a week. Strength and conditioning on Tuesday, Skipping class on Thursday, and Taebox on Friday. I love exercising. It is my sanity, It is the only hour in the day that is totally MINE. No husband, kids, work, phone, bills etc etc to worry about. It is my stress release, it keeps me sane! Lately I have struggled with going to the meetings. I found that I could just not fit it into the crazy Saturdays that we have, between art classes for Maddison, hockey practice for Turner, groceries, etc, I have tried to go it alone, and of course with all of you. I haven't lost any weight, but am keeping with my exercise, as I know that I cannot be a happy and content person without it. I had a bit of a lapse in September when I was feeling overwhelmed, and had to stuggle with the depression that has followed me most of my life. I took some time off work, and got back on track with the help of a good Dr and therapist. As for my distorted body image that I have struggled with all of my life. Well, I am now a little older (34) have had 3 beautiful children. I have stretch marks in the oddest places. The breasts are not quite as perky as they used to be, but I am finally content. I feel strong and healthy. I am confident and secure with my body. I know I have a ways to go, but I feel that I will get there, some day. I have a great support system, and it will happen, I'm sure of it. thanks for letting me share my story.
Pam Hills OP since October 00 258/200/158
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